Dear SEXES

SO! I've found that in general men need to be liked. Now I'm no psychologist but seriously have you ever met a man that is okay with being disliked? Bet you can't think of one and if they say they don't care believe me they are lying. For some reason men are programmed with an innate necessity to be loved by everyone. Ever notice when they do something wrong they don't just admit to it; they have to make you see it their way, and when all else fails to make you see their point of view they agree that you're right and apologize, saying they were wrong. 

NO! REALLY?!! 

Now if you've just met a man he more than likely won't care (not because he doesn't care if people like him, but because your opinion doesn't matter. You haven't established yourself as a valid necessity in his life.), but if he's invested time into you and a relationship, even if he's cheating, he will not be able to have you mad at him.

 This is also true about mothers and sons. They have a strong relationship whether he's a momma's boy or not and her will always run to his mother's side. The worst women (mothers, girlfriends, wives) are the ones who manipulate men. They recognize this innate weakness men have and they manipulate it.

If you have ever really been mad at a  man; I mean mad to the point where their apology does nothing to ease the pain and feels more like salt being thrown on the wounds, you'll see them start to do these little things to try to make everything better, to make you not mad. First. they try to give you a kiss on the lips. If you deny the kiss they will try to kiss you anywhere (forehead, hand, shoulder). Second, they will ask if you need anything and they will do anything within reason (massage, cook, run to the store). If you give them a reason to run out quickly believe me they are calling their best friend and are making a game plan. The best friend game plan is to: a) ask their opinion on how to fix the problem, b) ask them to call them so they can ignore the call, showing you how much you mean to them, and c) have them call or text a second time. The importance of the second time is this; if you haven't forgiven them by the second call they make an excuse to go see their friend and if you have forgiven them to show you that you're more important than their friends. 

WOMEN, men in fact do not do these things purposefully. They don't care to really sit there and think of master plans on how to manipulate us and situations (they would rather use that brain power to make money) it really just comes accidentally and naturally to them. 

As a woman it is your job to do what comes accidentally and naturally to you; BE AWARE. What do you think women's intuition is? Well here is the answer! Women have an ability to be aware of so many things at once and not even realize it so we call it women's intuition, when really it's the power of perception. 

Women pick and choose your battles. Think of your long term goal for the relationship and I mean really think of it before you say "there's the door go", because if you stop being aware of your partners feelings you will in fact push them away. 

When you push men away you make them emotionally unavailable for the next woman. So do not under any circumstances manipulate men, their feelings, or the moments you have with them. Because if you do, KARMA is real, you will be manipulated when your heart matters the most.