What is JOY?!?

How do you explain Joy? By definition it is a state of happiness, but happiness is neither measurable nor standard. Thus, it makes it easy to understand what makes one happy may not make another happy. However, how does one determine for themselves what brings them true joy. And is it possible that joy can be falsified unknowingly?

It is probable that in these times people are blinded by a need to know the future without fully accepting the present. How then is society to separate what it wants from what it has; and find happiness in what is and not in what could be? 

Philosophy

"Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you. Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says,".....that's her." 

       -unknown

To be or not to be? *Shakespeare

How do you explain to someone you're unhappy?

It's the general consensus that no one wants to feel as though they make their partner unhappy, however there comes a time when people need to realize that one unhappy situation does not need to result in the dissolution of an entire relationship. But, not recognizing the extent of the situation and the emotional toll it takes on your partner can. And why is it that the unhappy partner almost feels wrong for having their feelings hurt?

There is much to be said of communication in a relationship, but it's not always easy to communicate when emotions on a specific topic run high. If you feel that you are completely and totally in love with someone then you should be able to compromise and find a stable ground to walk forward with them on. The situation does not always have to lead to "maybe" and "if, then"; relationships are about bettering yourself with the help of another, not leaving them outside looking in, that's a booty call!

If you've really found someone you can't live without, then don't! Have them by your side even when you're in a place you don't want to be; otherwise, don't be surprised when they start questioning your intentions or whether you truly love them. Because when they walk away you'll only have yourself to blame.

The baby BOOM!

When did mid 20's become a time of feeling old? Leaving a feeling of do or die, women are starting to pose the baby question younger and younger.

A decade ago this was supposed to be a time of bettering yourself and securing a job. Now, people don't have steady jobs and are bringing kids into this world. It seems like every notification on facebook, twitter, myspace, and every other social networking site is of babies. 

Is it wrong to feel that at 24 it's too soon to want a baby? Is it wrong to want to be married before having kids? Is it wrong to look at someone who is 19 or 20 and having a baby and think they're too young but have a bit of jealousy?
 

Twilight Saga Part 1

What an amazing beginning of the end for the twilight saga!

As usual Edward is melodramatic, Jacob an angry over achiever, and Bella hard headed and confused. What makes this movie most exciting is how these character aspects finally bring meaning to the plot of the movie. Also, there are new developments in characters that once seemed more as though they were just fill ins and not a real necessity to the story line. Rosalie becomes a true character of the movie, losing that cold hearted (no pun intended) side she finally seems like a real member of the Cullen clan (perfect example of why you should never judge a book by its cover). 

The wolves also play a larger role in this part of the saga. Without giving anything away it must be said that they are the greatest antagonist the series has brought to light thus far. However, with much unexplained with the ways of the wolves the stories ending leaves you feeling unsettled. The whole imprinting thing that they do is left very vague and an explanation of its meaning is far more necessary for the story line than the explanation of knowing how it happens and what a wolf feels when he imprints. 

This movie's apparent purpose is to pull the viewer into the realm of vampirism completely; finally drawing away from the concepts of struggles with love and heartache and what could be perceived as teeny bopper drama, it becomes about a struggle with defining who one is and the importance of their roles in the lives of other characters.

Breaking Dawn has proven itself to be a strong beginning to what should be a great conclusion; making the twilight saga a series to be watched by generations to come.

If you haven't seen the movie yet make sure to stay through the credits the Volturi, as always, make an appearance.

Understanding One Another

Sometimes in relationships people forget that not everything is as it seems.

It's easy to put a negative perspective on comments and decisions made when everyone in your life has always made pessimism the norm. However, there comes a point in a relationship when you have to step back and realize that it's a two way street for a reason. You can't expect your partner to rely on you for everything and not rely on them; you can't expect them to be an open book while you're sitting around being a closed one.

The real question is how do you get your partner to open up to you. It's not like you can say "baby I'm here for you" and expect them to say to them self "oh ok I can completely trust you". 

Everyone has issues, that's a given, but how do you overcome them?

Overly Comfortable

At what point does a person realize that they aren't enough? Too often are the relationships of 20 somethings  in this day and age unhealthy. Is it that the perception of the 90's idea of divorce and separation directly effected the children of the time to have an innate desire to be in a relationship? 

This may sound crazy but there is a plethora of poor relationships happening and a sense of being comfortable that men and women alike don't want to give up. When did being in a relationship become about being comfortable and not about being happy? Is it not more realistic to believe that your other half should make you a better person; challenging you, loving you, and not always giving into your every waking desire? Why do some people feel the need to hang onto relationships that are easy, but offer them nothing but unhappiness? 

People sell themselves short because of the "what if's" society has been generating over the past decade. 

What if my partner cheats; they probably just needed to get it out of their system. NO. If your partner cheats on you it's because there is something missing in the relationship. 

What if I find out what they're missing in the relationship and try to change; then our relationship would be perfect. NO. Unless the problem is something like putting away dishes or picking up socks there isn't much that will be changed in the long run. What about you as a person is so bad that you could never find someone you're in fact compatible with. 


Compatibility; that seems a more necessary aspect in a relationship than comfortableness. 

Comfortable is what you should be with your best friend. How often do you find yourself fighting with your friends and possibly wanting to ring their necks, but still loving them in the end? Does that mean you should date them? Probably not! 

Not to say that the aspects of a friend relationship shouldn't exist between partners, but there needs to be more than just two best friends living under the same roof. 


It's time to reevaluate the aspect and realms of relationships.