So the wise man says "only fools rush in" and scientists attribute it to a release of some chemical in a woman's brain when she orgasms, but then how did all those people get married and start families and be in love before casual sex became a factor? Also, to state it perfectly clear most women are probably afraid to admit that they have been able to have perfectly casual sex and not get emotionally attached because of negative stigmas. Therefore, what makes us fall in love?
It is the ability to see in the other person what they cannot see in them self. In many situations there are times when one person is completely open and willing to take in everything another has to offer and the other person is not. Thus, the problem arises where relationships feel as though they are going nowhere and there is a vicious cycle of negative emotions arising. The next issue being; how to do deal with those emotions.
How do you deal with loving someone who isn't ready to love you? The answer is: there is no answer. Everyone deals with emotions differently; some cry, some fight, some run away, and the list could go on for hundreds of pages; but the one question everyone asks them self is why didn't they love me back?!
It is innate human nature to try to rationalize every situation (a problem other mammals don't face). Most of the time rationalizing a relationship is adjoined with loathing; either for oneself or the other person involved.
Self - loathing is the worst form of rationalizing a non-responsive partner. Often, because it is a quality possessed by those who have not been selfish in any way. Thus, it isn't until the one who has eaten away at them self finally begins to express a sense of disdain for their partner does the selfish one in the relationship see the err of their ways (often too late).
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