Overly Comfortable

At what point does a person realize that they aren't enough? Too often are the relationships of 20 somethings  in this day and age unhealthy. Is it that the perception of the 90's idea of divorce and separation directly effected the children of the time to have an innate desire to be in a relationship? 

This may sound crazy but there is a plethora of poor relationships happening and a sense of being comfortable that men and women alike don't want to give up. When did being in a relationship become about being comfortable and not about being happy? Is it not more realistic to believe that your other half should make you a better person; challenging you, loving you, and not always giving into your every waking desire? Why do some people feel the need to hang onto relationships that are easy, but offer them nothing but unhappiness? 

People sell themselves short because of the "what if's" society has been generating over the past decade. 

What if my partner cheats; they probably just needed to get it out of their system. NO. If your partner cheats on you it's because there is something missing in the relationship. 

What if I find out what they're missing in the relationship and try to change; then our relationship would be perfect. NO. Unless the problem is something like putting away dishes or picking up socks there isn't much that will be changed in the long run. What about you as a person is so bad that you could never find someone you're in fact compatible with. 


Compatibility; that seems a more necessary aspect in a relationship than comfortableness. 

Comfortable is what you should be with your best friend. How often do you find yourself fighting with your friends and possibly wanting to ring their necks, but still loving them in the end? Does that mean you should date them? Probably not! 

Not to say that the aspects of a friend relationship shouldn't exist between partners, but there needs to be more than just two best friends living under the same roof. 


It's time to reevaluate the aspect and realms of relationships.